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"If you don't feed it, it won't grow!"
- SUSAN DAY
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If you don't feed it, it won't grow!

It sounds so simple. It is, when we learn how to "drop it”.

When we feed the dog, the plants, a child or our stomachs, they grow. When we feed anything, typically it grows.

When we feed our anger, it grows. When we feed our disappointments, they grow. When we feed our frustrations, irritations and worries, they all grow. Moreover, they are apt to grow quickly! How do we feed our anger, disappointments, frustrations, irritations and worries? We dwell on them, we share them with others, and we rehash and retell the details over and over again. If we could only remember this simple formula: “If you don’t feed it, it won’t grow!”

When we are in the midst of a struggle, we tend to prolong the pain and the agony by reliving the conversation, the event or story. Why can’t we just drop it?

Drop it? You must be kidding!

He hurt me! She betrayed me! They abused me! Ok, so they did all of those things. Yes, it was painful. Yes, it was wrong. Yes, it might even have been illegal or immoral. However, how does it serve you to keep dwelling, rehashing, retelling and sharing the details? I know it was not fair. It was not right. It could have been different. It was not. Again, I ask you, “How is it serving you?” The short answer is, “It is not.”

Reliving it will never change anything.

It is so easy to step into the trap. We tell ourselves, “Just one more time. I will just talk about it this one last time.” Every time you feed it, it grows. The regret grows. The “should have” grows. The pain and the agony simply grow.

I had a dear mentor once tell me, “Just drop it Susan.”

I thought he must have been kidding! He was not.

Naturally, I begged to know, “How do I just drop it?” I waited eagerly, knowing that he would have the formula, a key or some trick that I could follow. He simply said, “Just drop it Susan.”

I must admit, I was very disappointed not to mention extremely frustrated. I wish I could tell you I had the magic formula, a key or some trick to share with you. What I can tell you is that it took many years of practice and many failed attempts. Yet, I can also tell you, one day I just dropped the thought. I dropped the need to pick up the phone and tell someone—anyone who would listen. I just sat with “it”. I simply decided and told myself, “Drop it Susan.” I did and the situation was resolved.

One trick I know is, “Just Drop It!”

Join us at DaysCamp to learn more tools to step away from distractions, harness your attention and connect more deeply to yourself!

With light,

Susan Day
 
 

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